Wednesday, June 6, 2012

Emmelina the Ballerina

Emme was so excited to start Ballet this week!

She practices her ballet almost every day (can't you tell by her form!?!)

So much joy when she dances!

Such concentration!

Such cuteness!

Yes, she likes to raise her hand.  And ask questions.  And tattle.  Oy, such a teacher's pet!

Again, can you believe her perfect form? 

The tap-tap-tappy (as she calls it) is her favorite part of class!

OT Update

Well, we had some issues between the facility we chose and our insurance.  So we have decided to move to a new facility. Delays, delays, delays.  But we were able to get into the new facility fairly quick, and we have our second evaluation tomorrow morning.  We will wait for the results (which we kinda already know, but the new facility has to do their own evaluation), and then set up OT. 

It's been a long week for us.  Leo was up all Sunday night with a barky cough, and he was (naturally) screaming through a lot of it.  I felt horrible for my little man!  We took him in and he had croup and a double ear infection!  No wonder he was so miserable, and it came on SO quick!  The nurse gave him some shots (which wasn't fun right away), but by the next morning he was back to normal.

Hope to have some answers for OT by Friday or Monday, and hopefully we can get started ASAP!  We are also looking into a weighted blanket for him, he still can't sleep through the night.  Just one more reason why I'm anxious for OT!

Friday, June 1, 2012

Wishing and Hoping

Four months ago Leo was diagnosed with Sensory Processing Disorder.  Earlier this year I thought I was a bad Mom.  I thought I couldn't teach my child how to be respectful.  I thought he hated me because how aggressive he was towards me.  I cried a lot.  Leo cried a lot.  Emme cried a lot.  It was hard.  We entered attachment therapy, which helped some.  Some days he would be great!  Others.  Well, let's just say it was bad again.  Then our pediatrician noticed this behavior and said "we need to step back, something is wrong here".  She explained Sensory seeking behaviors to me, and I just nodded my head because it made sense!   His lack of self control, his aggression, his disregulation.  I still don't understand it entirely, I just know that every time I read about it the more I understand my son. 

Now that we have this diagnosis does not mean that it's gotten easier.   It just means we are seeking help.  We are just now getting him started on Occupational Therapy (yes, it's four months later.  Let's just say insurance has been hindering this a bit).  We stick close to home, not venturing out too much.  We are picky who our play dates are with (Leo doesn't handle younger children very well right now).  We do a lot of sensory play around the house.  Sometimes it makes a big mess, but sometimes it's very much needed.  I don't decide to do something outside of the house until I can see Leo's mood.  We have been back on a bottle now, which helps calm him.  We stay pretty low key for Leo's sake.

We have had good weeks, we have had horrible weeks.  One of the bad weeks was for my Grandfather's funeral.   We decided that Trent should stay home, it was crazy busy for him at work.  I should have thought this through a little better.  We had some moments that were good, we had lots of other moments that were bad. I saw people watching me closely, I felt their thoughts seeping into me.  "Wow, she can't control her two year old", or "I would never allow my child to do that", or "If that were my kid I would...".  Oy.  I know that's what people think, because I see those looks a lot. 

I see these looks every time I take Leo somewhere new.  He gets overstimulated, I try to calm him down, and he goes back to what he knows best.  Biting, because he didn't have enough food when he needed it most.  Hitting, because he couldn't hit when he was faced with traumatic events when he was younger.  And I can handle his rages because I have an idea of what he is thinking.  But it doesn't make the looks any easier.  I know my son.  I know that he is aware of right and wrong.  He just can't control it right now.  Afterwards, he will say things like "I try not to be bad, I really try!"  Or "I'm sorry Mom, I don't want to hurt you".  But those people don't hear him say that.  They don't hear the pain in his voice when he is insistent that he REALLY is good!  They don't see him sigh in relief when I tell him "No matter what you do, I am your Mama.  And I will always be your Mama."

So we have gone back to basics for Leo, until we can get into Occupational Therapy.  Next week we have our first appointment.  I'm hoping to learn more about his needs, and how I can help him.  I'm hoping that they teach me the appropriate way to react.  I'm hoping that Leo will learn how to calm himself, or be able to take himself out of the situation before someone gets hurt.  I just wish that every person could see the happy, sensitive, creative and smart little boy that I see when we wake up in the morning.

I will send an update after our fist appointment, wish us luck!

Monday, April 30, 2012

She's a Talker!

Please excuse the bedhead, and YES she did ask for "Justen the Beaver" (we were checking things out on Netflix and she saw the Bieber movie).  Man, this girl cracks me up!

Sunday, April 29, 2012

Oh the Places We'll Go!

Ergh, is this thing on?  Oh it is?  Oops!

So yes, it has been awhile since I have updated this blog.  We have experienced some changes in our life, and I still feel that we are trying to get into a "new" routine.

Our biggest change has been that we moved!  Trent was offered a job in a bigger city, and with this new job I am able to stay home with the kids.  So within a month and a half we packed up our lovely little house, and headed to parts unknown.  It was a whirlwind of a move, and I still have moments where I can't believe we actually did it!
Although we LOVE living where we live, the transition has been somewhat difficult on the kids.  Little Miss had a hard first week, and she still asks to go back to our old house (on occasion, 7 months later).  Little Man initially took to the move.  After the first of the year he started regressing in his attachment, and also started showing different behavior than what we have ever seen from him.  I was torn, is this age related?  Is it adoption related?  Is it something I fed him?  I had no idea, and I felt lost.  I was calling Trent regularly during the day in tears.  I was furiously reading every single parenting book I came across.  Nothing was helping with his aggression.  His need to constantly GO.  His inability to hear anything remotely close to "no". 

So we stepped back, and looked for help outside of the home.  It has been a slow go, but it's getting better.  Somewhere along the way, my son and I have lost some of our attachment.  We are now growing back together again.  He has been turning to me a bit more, attempting to make eye contact with me.  But it is still very fragile. Mr. Man has also been diagnosed with sensory integration disorder, which we are waiting to get into therapy.  We are in the middle of a giant learning curve right now.

My boy has already shown some AMAZING transformations in the last few months.  He has amazed me with his intellect, his perceptiveness, and his will to change.  These traits may be hard to parent at the age of 2, but I can already tell how amazing he will be as an adult. 

As for Miss E?  She is so much fun to watch grow.  Her flair for drama, her way with words, and her ability to love everyone has been flourishing every day.  That big sunny smile can light up the room, and she has everyone wrapped around her finger in a moment.  She is preparing for preschool next year, and she is ready to take on the world. 

My goal is to get back into blogging, to start recording our family's growth.  I would like to update the blog once a week, but I will keep you posted on how that goes!